Does Watching Porn Have An Effect On Women's Sexuality?
Many women do watch porn on DVD (alone and with their partners) but they don't spend nearly as much time watching it as men. However, they do frequently complain that sometimes they can't find exactly what they are looking for. This can be because what one lady wants is much different from the other's, one lady's porn was a soft porn, while the other's was hardcore pornography.
Perhaps she likes to visit adult websites only while she's with her significant other. Or maybe she only watches porn in order to satisfy her own needs. Whatever your reason, it can get frustrating trying to find just the right thing.
In addition to wanting exactly what you can't always seem to find, women also have a complex relationship with sex itself. For some women, sexuality is almost an art form and many women see watching lesbian porn as a way of perfecting their own sexuality. And while there are some women who claim to enjoy pornography, it can be somewhat of a complicated activity. To understand why women watch porn, it helps to understand the dynamics of women's sexuality.
First, women crave connection, and a great deal of connection comes through sexual intimacy. Whether it's from a boyfriend, husband, spouse, or a special friend, watching porn is a great way of connecting with these people. As women talk about their sexual experiences, it becomes increasingly clear that they don't want the same experience presented to them in real life. The advertisement for pornography is designed around the idea that men will be amazed at the intricacies of the female experience and that women are eager to share their "secret" to get pregnant, choosing a baby's gender, and more.
As women continue to view this advertisement, they become frustrated by the lack of variety in the experience. The advertisement doesn't stop when a man and a woman decide to make love. For the next few months, the advertisement continues to play. While some women still choose to watch porn at this point, most are ready to move on to other forms of "expression". When the women finally move past this frustration, they usually end up finding another form of expression- but this time, the expression comes in the form of a straight man making love to another man.
Women's liberation in the past and present have led women to view porn as a marker of their past sexual trauma and as a way of enacting revenge on women who have treated them poorly in the past. While women are definitely involved in the production of pornography, they don't do so because they want to hurt women. Instead, women watch pornography as a means of expressing themselves, and as a way of coming to terms with their own sexuality and their relationships with others. Because of this, many women feel that the constant portrayal of porn in movies, magazines, on television, and on websites is the major factor in diminishing women's enjoyment of sex.
But is this true? Does watching pornography have an effect on women's sexuality? And does it matter whether women watching porn are self-consumed or are consuming with someone else? The answer to these questions isn't simple. One of the reasons why women are increasingly likely to turn to pornography in order to help them relax and release their sexual tension is because women are more familiar with pornography than they are with sexuality in general. And women are familiar with porn because it has been used to create sexual tension for decades.
When women watch porn, they are merely responding to the images that they have come to see as representative of their own sexuality. And because they view porn as representative of their own sexual tension, they will generally find that their own sexual tension increases. In other words, women viewing porn aren't re-enacting the act of sex with another person, they are viewing a sexual fantasy that feels real to them because it is represented in the images that they are looking at. This very real tension between women and porn creates a link between sexual stimuli and the brain's natural response of excitement.
However, it is not the link between porn and women that makes porn appealing to women. The true attraction is the fantasy that it presents. Because women are constantly exposed to images of degradation, objectification, and sexual fantasy during their daily lives, they are primed for the sexual images found in porn. When women watch porn, they are given the opportunity to step back from the everyday world and place themselves in another fantasy, one in which they become the prey rather than the predator. This fantasy not only increases the women's sexual desire, it also increases their understanding of themselves and their body and its potential for pleasure.
